Kay's Blog - The Journey Through The Decades Of The Real Women

I’m still alive!!!

Kay — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 17:53:55 +0000

Dear fabulous friends (who feel almost invisable, as i have no followers yet…or i don’t know how to work this site properly) a big and very quick hello.

Just thought that if there is anyone who was and is waiting for my next post that i am still hear and alive…! I will be honest and tell you that i got side tracked big time and lost almost lost all motivation to write…all i can say is that you fabulousness’s will be sooo suprised at the latest gossip in my life…and i can say the twenties for me is definatly confusing and im not quite sure if its enjoyable or just dam frustrating!

I am however working on my next big post on the twenties and let me asure you that is definatly to do with guys, relationships and the mess you can get yourself in…(well if your in my shoes anyway)… even if your gay…you can defo relate to this…unless your annoying perfect in everyway…well in that case…good for you! (and yes im jealous).

will write real soon so stay tuned my lovelys…

P.S. if there are people who have read my posts please even if you just scanned it…leave a comment good or bad.

xxx

Blog 2…The Twenties and ‘What to do next?’

Kay — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:08:09 +0000

I have been so busy this week but some how I still managed to make time to think about this very grey area of the twenties. I caught up with some friends and some how the conversation lead to where we see ourselves in the many years to come (what we meant by ‘many years’ I don’t think even we know that), we all sat that there asking each other the question “where do you see yourself?” this was over a very ‘delicious’ salad, since we’ve decided that we defiantly need to shift some weight before the summer party invites start coming through the doors. I personally found that now I’ve done the whole university thing, I would be working somewhere doing a job somehow related to my degree and having holidays year after year. Somehow this hasn’t happened (I’m not disappointed, I just wonder why?), I do work, but it defiantly is not where I want to be, so for the past year I’ve taken on a million different jobs like starting a small private wedding favour business, a make up artist, volunteer work, and of course writing and yet after all of this I still struggle with having a permanent job title and deciding what it is I want to stick with. The positive part of doing the mini projects is that I do most of the things I absolutely love doing and still pay the government for my existence (and in return they pay no attention or gratitude for my hard earned cash what so ever).

The same question was asked to Lucy, (single, fantastic, down to earth, yet crazy, funny, loves designer labels, shopping and lovable young women and one of my fabulous friends) she didn’t go university she went straight into work, she is more than comfortable with her life style and has the fabulous holidays year after year, however when the question was asked her answer was that she didn’t know where she was going in life either. As far as she can see it at least before her thirties, she is more than happy partying with the girlfriends and working somewhere she really hates (it’s a compromise). And then there’s Rachel (Ray for short, in a relationship with a much older handsome guy, loud, crazy, geek-ish, hates confrontations, knows the law and has no idea about designer labels and make-up and is another one of my fabulous friends) she’s at the end of her masters degree and is someone who needs a plan for everything (and I mean everything!). She has everything mapped out for her life…well when it comes to her career anyway. But that’s the thing you see, we all at some point have made plans to take us up to some point of our lives, but when you reach the goal and everything is how you want it, is it just a simple matter of finding a new goal? Or is it easier said than done? My friends and I all come from different backgrounds, traditions, cultures, religions, and education levels but one thing that seems to be very similar if not exactly similar is that after the education, some career goals and the very few goals during the unknown in the twenties, we end up still wondering which direction our lives are going. We still end up thinking ‘what the hell do I do next?’ and this is so early in our lives, I mean I hear, read and talk to some women much older than myself who ask that question because most of the career and holiday destination goals are completed, but why us in the twenties? Why so early on? Is it all the women that I know (including myself) are really messed up and confused and have killed all our brain cells after major consumptions of alcohol? Or are there so many distractions in the twenties, (parties, girlfriends, shopping, education, career decisions, appearances, boyfriends, etc) which we end up even more confused and side tracked in everything we do until we reach a certain age and realise ‘we really must get a move on’ (this is ‘normal’ according to the women in the media, this should happen in the spinster years, so are we, the real women, really on track with what we read and see in the media?). Are the twenties such a grey area for some women that if we take a closer look at the twenties, are the years of our twenties just a period in our lives which is purely there for one purpose only…is it the part of our lives the journey we use to end total existence and any signs of the teenage years and prepare us for the real women years…the thirties?

I don’t know about the thirties, but I still have a lot of unanswered questions about the twenties…

Next Blog 3…The Twenties and Men!

Kay x

The Decade Of The Mysterious Twenties

Kay — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:50:05 +0000

We hear stories about teenage girls, we hear stories about the spinsters, we hear stories about the women in their prime, and we even hear stories about women in there fifties, sixties and even seventies plus. And all the stories surround issues about them and their journeys finding themselves, their passions, their perfect careers, and above all of these things, finding their true love…
Ah true love…But whatever happened to the decade of the twenties? Is it really all tied up with becoming this amazing fabulous women after finishing university and being popular with the girlfriends and even more popular with the guys and then so easily adapting those god given talents to the world of absolutely fabulous parties, cosmetics, more guys leading to the perfect guy, clothes and even more fabulous shoes…?
Being a women in her twenties I some how find myself questioning these incidents that supposedly happen to the women in their twenties. Really…? Is the decade of the twenties such a blur like the morning after a major handover or like the black smudgy eye makeup that when you take a real look at the years of your twenties, are they really spent doing all of these ‘lush’ things which no one really writes or even talks about after the expiry date?
So if the answer is ‘yes’, then why hasn’t anyone spoken about it in such height like the rest of the years and where do the rest of the women in the twenties go? What happens to the women who never really became popular during their university years, never had more than one boyfriend in six years and believed having sex with gorgeous random guys was practically putting yourself on the lowest of the lowest standards because you know he’s using you for sex (is that a bad thing in this day and age?), never had the chance to afford the lush cosmetics, clothes and even more fabulous shoes? Where are they? If they exist where do they fit in this generalisation of the typical women in her twenties…Do they even exist?
I don’t know about the rest of the women in their twenties but I defiantly know more than a handful and myself to know that our twenties somehow don’t mirror what we have heard. Why? …Who knows?
Why is it that we don’t read or see the classic love stories of the heart touching spinsters like ‘Bridget Jones’ and of course ‘Sex and the City – Ms Carrie Bradshaw’ which then leads you to the prime years of your life, but why not for the twenties? Okay we see the odd story of the wild romance stories of how a guy and girl meet at university and fall into this amazing heart clenching over the top sexy love story, which has the drifting of the couple and them meeting after many years and so on (blah blah blah)… Makes you think doesn’t it, as to why the love stories from the decade of the twenties has rarely reached the same height as the thirties and even forties.
I will say that I am not ignoring the idea that you can’t fall in love in your twenties, but I do question this, that why no over exciting love stories, apart from the Romeo & Juliet which I have to admit has cobwebs over it. Are the twenties full of the things I mentioned earlier, is it just a big ball of blurry fun with lots of sex and parties and with the odd spell of ‘romance’ which no one talks about?
I guess what I’m trying to say and find out is ‘are the lives of the fabulous women we read and watch in the movies, who we secretly wish was us, really relate to the women of the ‘real world’ like many people say?’ Are us still single women going to find our true love only after going through our terrible period of our spinster years, to eventually find the perfect, rich, over romantic and the love of our life? Does that really happen?

Really?…

Kay x

A Big Hello!

Kay — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 21:29:45 +0000

Hello Ladies and Gents,

This is my first ever blog and wanted to say a big hello to everyone who reads this blog or the many more blogs to come…

Im going to be writing about experiences and opinions about issues related to the women of different decades, starting with the obivious…the Twenties! I figured it was something that i have put off for a little too long and now it was time to not just think the things i do, but this time to share with more people other than my close friends in the nearest Starbucks. I know that some of the things that i will write about will hit the spot for many ladies out there for sure and maybe even for some of the gents out there too (who knows?). Don’t worry this isn’t another continuous ‘Carrie Bradshaw’ whirlwind life changing story, where somehow us women in particular find ourseleves still questioning all that happens to the amazing ‘Ms Bradshaw’ and yet we still have not seen our perfect ‘Mr Big’. This is just about what has, is and may happen to the women who don’t always fit in the fabulous shoes of ‘Ms Bradshaw’.

Everyone is more than welcome to leave comments, share their stories and have a good old gossip! I think we can all do with a good cry, shout, gossip and ofcourse a good laugh!